Friday, September 25, 2015

Yvonne Jones, A Time to Heal: The Struggles of A Battered Woman on: Saying yes whether you mean it or not

    Have you ever been around somebody who well just about everything they say or do you disagree with? You really wanted to tell them that you didn't agree, but doing so would bring about an argument, or even worse. This is one of the biggest forms of abuse that is so damaging. Sometimes you have to learn to agree to disagree, that's true and sometimes in order to keep peace, its better to just let them believe you agree whether you do or not. However in a relationship that's abusive this is very dangerous. If you start out in the beginning having to agree with someone just to keep from getting hit etc., then you need to get out as soon as possible.
      My ex-husband told me many times that I was stupid, fat, ugly, and that nobody but he would ever love me. He would often say "you are stupid aren't you?" Then tell me I'd better say yes or he would kill me etc. I found myself many times agreeing with whatever he said just hoping that it would calm him down, and even then sometimes it didn't matter. If I agreed he'd hit me, if I didn't agree he'd hit me, and it got to the point that it didn't matter whether I spoke or didn't say anything at all, he would still hit me.
      If you have to keep peace by agreeing to something that you disagree with, then this is abuse. God created each one of us with different personalities. You may not always agree with me and I may not always agree with you, but that doesn't give us the right to hurt someone because of it. The longer you stay in this kind of an abusive relationship, the harder it is mentally to get out. Next: "I'm being watched."

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